Life is SUPPOSED to be a certain way..

Life is supposed to be a certain way....well not really.... I read this today on 10 Lies You Were Tricked Into Believing

 "It is ultimately only our own thoughts that hurt us.  Simply feeling what we are feeling, and dealing with it honestly, can be very healing.  We always have the freedom to choose how we wish to respond to whatever life presents to us.  Let go of how you thought your life should be, and embrace the real life that is trying to work its way into your consciousness.  Change what you can change, change your thoughts about what you can’t change, and move on in peace."

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I was at a training this weekend and learned many many things about relationships, people and myself.  Have you heard the expression "Life is what you make of it?"  This just dawned on me as I was sitting here typing..

Life truly IS what YOU make of it!!

Sometimes the external circumstances don't ring true to what you are thinking about--sometimes they do--and when they are not where you want to be, in order to change your reality, you must first change your perception of the reality.  

Change Your Thoughts!!  

If you are broke and struggling, focusing on that just creates more of the same--what you focus on grows----don't believe it?  Think about a day when you woke up and everything seemed dark, dreary, you were worrying about getting the bills paid, you became angry at your partner because they don't listen to you, you walk out to the kitchen and you drop your coffee cup--another mess, you get more angry--you hit every red light, you're late to work--you get the picture--one of those "anything that can go wrong will go wrong kinda days."   Next time this starts happening to you--change your thoughts--instead of focusing on what is BAD, focus on what is good....you can find the good in anything..really..your partner doesn't listen to you?  Find something they do that is good, be thankful you HAVE a partner, many people don't and want one...be grateful the coffee cup didn't have hot coffee in it..etc etc. I know it sounds trite at first but if you start this small and simply, you will begin to create a habit of gratitude and thankfulness.  

This can and will change your life........it is in keeping our vision below the horizon line, nose to the grindstone, day in day out, nothing changes, it's always the same Crap attitude that keeps you a prisoner-- don't be captive to your feelings--feelings are just that--feelings.  Look up, stay positive, look for the half full glass, the goodness in people, bring them up, not down--negative nasty backstabbing people don't prosper.....they never step into the life of greatness that they were born for, their purpose is forever on the horizon yet they never see it............When you change your perception of, you CAN change your reality!  Start now!
~JmF~

Avoid Needless Drama

Avoid needless drama and those who create it Never create unnecessary drama, and don’t surround yourself with those who do.  Choose to spend time with people who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you – people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it.  Don’t walk away from negative people, RUN!  Life is too short to spend time with folks who suck the happiness out of you.  from Marc  and Angela Hack

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Something to remember for this morning-as your day starts, as goes your day.  I pray not to be the negative person in others lives because I allow the negativity to effect my life...it is a viscous circle...negativity breeds negativity, peace and happiness breeds peace and happiness.

It is so true that what you focus on grows.  If you live for the "thrill" of drama, the "thrill" of gossip--you just get more and more "stuff" in your life that doesn't feed you.  I have a friend that seems to thrive on "News" whether it be good or bad--I have found that mostly the news is negative and/or subversive at best.  I just love this person, they are funny, a bit on the sarcastic side.  Some people you can only take in smaller doses for your own emotional health.  At 48 I just don't care about drama anymore--

Philippians 4:8 gives us truth in how we are to live our lives and I am meditating on this verse every day to further ingrain the principles into my day and thought life

Finally, brethren,

whatever things are true,

whatever things are noble,

whatever things are just,

whatever things are pure,

whatever things are lovely,

whatever things are of good report,

if there is any virtue and

if there is anything praiseworthy—

meditate on these things.

(NKJV)

Have a blessed, drama free positive day!

~JmF~